Grown-ups Don’t Skip by Susan Sherbert
When was the last time you felt like skipping? Did you embrace the moment and feel the joy, or did you refrain and act like the responsible adult you are supposed to be? As we get older imagination and dreams are replaced with pressure and responsibility. Playtime becomes work time, and our dreams slowly fade away. Without that spark of passion, that uncontainable giggle of joy, there is no place for the seeds of fun and dreams to grow. The purpose of Grown-ups Don’t Skip is to help you let go of adult reality and remember what carefree fun feels like. This guide will help you gather the kindling that will fuel your imagination and put you on a path to a life you love.
What is your passion? Do you have an enormous lifetime dream? Grown-ups often get stuck in reality based thinking and let fun and imagination fade away. Grown-ups Don’t Skip can help you bring back the fun of youth. It provides the necessary tools to bring back imagination, have more fun, and remember the wow. It’s about changing your thoughts and reconnecting with the emotions that are usually reserved for the very young. True joy and excitement are within you somewhere. It’s just a matter of discovering where you put them as you made your transition into adulthood.
This books helps you overcome your resistance to fun. And if you think you aren’t afraid of fun, think again. They say the number one grown-up fear is the fear of speaking in public, but where did all of this anxiety come from? As kids, we weren’t afraid to stand up in front of an audience. All it took was one little smile or patronizing laugh and – Show Time! We’d dance, sing, and talk non-stop to anyone who would listen. All that mattered was that we had an audience. Wow, someone is watching me! “Look what I can do Uncle Bill. I can stand on my head.” Upside down we went, underpants exposed to the world. It didn’t matter if our underwear was clean or not, and it never occurred to us that there might be a hole in them. More than likely, we’d be happy to show them off, especially if they had cartoon characters on them. As four year olds, we simply didn’t care what other people thought. Our minds were pure and free from status, judgment, discrimination, and fear. All we wanted was a bit of attention and maybe a smile for our efforts. Then we grew up.
Someone once told me that four is the ideal age. Life is fun and carefree. The days revolve around playtime, nap time, and laughter. At four we are old enough to think, talk, and express ourselves with a limited vocabulary. We have mastered the secrets of the human body so stinky diapers, and milk from a bottle is no longer necessary. Four year olds are creative, imaginative, and fearless. They are totally unaware of the world that surrounds them. They are well past the terrible twos but far from the trying teenage years. They have developed personalities and curiosity is abundant. They don’t have the restrictions of the grown-up world yet, and since these little tykes are not old enough to fully enroll in school, the influenced of playmates, bullies, and teachers is limited. Four year olds have not been stifled by the rules of society, or burdened with guilt. At four, life is all about fun, excitement, and dreams.
Unfortunately life happens and we all grow up. Responsibility and pressure takes over, time and money become involved, and friends and family often get complicated. As a result, fun gets pushed aside. Adults learn about fear, hate, and jealously. We do our best to be kind, but criticism and judgment creep into our lives. We put our needs in front of others, and too often we end up on a different path than we expected.
Now imagine what your life would be like if we could bring back just some of the traits and feelings from that magical age. Would you have fun and play nicely with others? Would you be attracted to people for their smiles and personality, instead of their good looks and bank accounts? What about your dreams and imagination? How would your life be different if you truly believed that anything was possible? What would it feel like to embrace the now and remember the passion of fun and play?
We were all four years old once, and even if a childhood was not perfect, most of those feelings are still within us somewhere – we just need to find them. Once you learn to think, not act, like a four year old, fun will be only a hop, skip and jump away.
Getting back in touch with the thoughts and feelings of that magical four year old requires time, energy, and a change in your way of thinking. There is some unlearning to be done. Bringing passion, fun, and dreams back into your life requires that you embrace the traits and qualities of that four year old, but from an adult perspective. It’s about changing our reality based, grown-up thinking, and relearning to think, not act, like a child.
Change your thinking and your actions will follow